具有讽刺意味的是，那些你深爱的人也是那些你能伤害的人，或者说是那些对你伤害最大的人。事实是，当你恋爱时，要做好受伤的准备。当你爱一个人时，你信任他，分享你的弱点和秘密。当你们的关系恶化时，这些可能会对你们不利。当你的爱人伤了你的心，你将如何收拾残局？

在这样的时候，爱是痛苦的。爱情的磨擦激发了许多伟大作家的灵感。从莎士比亚到简·奥斯汀，许多作家都曾在某个时期或另一个时期讲述过被称为爱情的痛苦。下面的引语带出了爱情带来的心痛。

是的，爱是痛苦的。但这并不意味着你应该撤回到壳中。找到勇气为你的尊严和生存而战。用这些“爱的伤痛”来包扎你破碎的灵魂。当你跌倒时，最好的办法是掸掉身上的灰尘，然后再爬起来。摆脱那种沮丧的感觉，抬起头来。正如圣雄甘地明智地说的，“没有你的允许，没有人可以伤害你。”

名言

"One does not love a place the less for having suffered in it unless it has all been suffering, nothing but suffering." -Jane Austen "The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever." -Carroll Bryant "If love is so important to have that one doesn't want to lose it, why is it when we find true love we often don't notice it?" -Anonymous "There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over; the wound is closed and healed, done with." -Harry Crews "When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving oneself, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance." -Oscar Wilde "What will survive of us is love." -Philip Larkin "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." -Daphne Rae, "Love Until It Hurts" "We are more often frightened than hurt, and we suffer more from imagination than from reality." -Seneca "Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding." -Diane Arbus "Oh, innocent victims of Cupid, Remember this terse little verse; To let a fool kiss you is stupid, To let a kiss fool you is worse." -E. Y. Harburg "Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache, and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life." -Joan Lunden "It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone." -Anonymous "The folks you help won't remember it and the folks you hurt won't ever forget it." -Bill Clayton "Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs. " -William Shakespeare "Love is like the truth, sometimes it prevails, sometimes it hurts." -Victor M. Garcia Jr. "The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned." -William Somerset Maugham "Where there is love, there is pain." -Spanish proverb "Those who are faithful know only the trivial side of love; it is the faithless who know love's tragedies." -Oscar Wilde "If you have it [love], you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." -Sir James M. Barrie "Love hurts when it changes us." -Toba Beta "There is only one kind of love, but there are a thousand imitations." -Francois de La Rouchefoucauld "The courses of true love never did run smooth." -William Shakespeare "Of all pains, the greatest pain, Is to love, and to love in vain." -George Granville "Why is it that we don't always recognize the moment love begins, but we always recognize the moment it ends?" -Anonymous "We don't believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack." -Marie E. Eschenbach "Love hurts, Love scars, Love wounds and marks Any heart not tough or strong enough To take a lot of pain... Love is like a cloud, it holds a lot of rain... Love is like a flame, it burns you when it's hot." -Felice and Boudleaux Bryant