我们每天使用的技术和社交媒体不断地炮轰我们过去分享的东西，或者根据他们认为我们是谁来为我们做广告。那些过去的帖子可以很有趣地重温，每隔一段时间，那些有针对性的广告确实有效。但《连线》资深作家（前Verge公司职员）劳伦古德（Lauren Goode）发表了一篇强有力的个人故事，讲述了这些技术如何也能让我们对那些我们可能想忘记的时代产生难以忘怀的回忆。

在这篇文章中，古德描述了她如何取消2019年5月的婚礼，从那以后，她一直在与科技搏斗，让她想起以前的恋情和没有发生的婚礼。这里只有一个毁灭性的段落：

Social media and photo apps were by now full-on services, infused with artificial intelligence, facial recognition, and an overwhelming amount of presumption. For months, photos of my ex appeared on the Google Home Hub next to my bed, the widgets on my iPad, and the tiny screen of my Apple Watch. So yeah: My ex’s face sometimes shows up on my wrist. As I write this, Facebook reminds me that nine years ago I visited him in Massachusetts and met his family’s dog.

古德还写道，由于几乎不可能从互联网上删除您的数据，因此很难摆脱这些提醒：

I managed to do half the work. But that’s exactly it: It’s work. It’s designed that way. It requires a thankless amount of mental and emotional energy, just like some relati***hips. And even if you find the time or energy to navigate settings and submenus and customer support forms, you still won’t have ultimate control over the experience. In Apple Photos, you can go to Memories, go through the collage the app has assembled for you, delete a collage, untag a person or group of people, or tell the app you want to see fewer Memories like it. The one thing you can’t do? Opt out of the Memories feature entirely.

但她也分享了这项技术和我们保存的数据如何仍能赋予我们意义，即使它来自一个可能不再代表它曾经做过的时代：

Never mind that I’m wearing a white silk dress in the photo, that there’s a ring on my finger and a hazy row of bridal gowns on racks behind us. I still won’t delete it. I won’t archive photos from the half-marathon I ran with my ex, the one finish line we crossed, because I ran 13.1 miles and I’d prefer to remember how that felt on days when I have nothing left in the tank. I won’t delete the albums I have from half a dozen Christmases, because I need to believe holiday gatherings will happen again. I won’t unfollow our wedding photographer on Instagram, because—even though she never shot our photos—I appreciate her work as a keeper of other people’s memories.

不管我在这里写什么，我都不能公正地对待古德令人难以置信的故事。去看看吧。